In this chapter I go looking for my personal reason (excuse) for reaching my mid-thirties and still being single. I travel to the American Psychological Association’s national convention and criticize the work of William Pollack and David Lisak who were arguing at the conference that all male commitment issues came from bad socialization. I was sure socialization wasn’t the whole story. This led to my brief affair with the work of evolutionary psychologist David Buss. He argued that many of the differences between men and women in romantic relationships came from our pre-wired evolutionary desires. I thought he was right but eventually realized that evolutionary psychology was not helpful in finding (or understanding the meaning of) love.